The Power of Eye Contact

On the last day of a recent “Bad Boy With A Heart” boot-camp here in Sarasota, Florida, I took my students out to The Tiki Bar for lunch.  We all sat at the bar.  I placed myself at the end.  I do this on purpose.  I always sit in the best place… the place that actually separates me from everyone else.  So, if a girl walks by, I have the opportunity to hit eye contact with her… which opens up the possibility to actually get to know her.  

About 10 minutes after we sat down, a group of 3 girls and 2 guys walked up to the other end of where the students were sitting at the bar.  One of the girls was super cute.  My student sitting on the end started going against everything we were talking about all weekend.  He fell into his old way of thinking (what the “community” taught him) and started throwing openers and banter lines out to the girl standing next to him.  

I was watching him totally mess up this interaction the entire time… shaking my head.  The girl he was talking to was shaking her head as well.  

Meantime, I was hitting eye contact with the super cute girl that was behind them.  After her group ordered their drinks, they walked to a table and sat down.  Super cute girl conveniently placed herself where she could see me so we could continue to hit eye contact.   Her companions sat in spots where I could not see them from my seat.  

I continued to hit eye contact with super cute girl.  A few minutes went by.  Then, one of the guys in the group came up to me and told me that his sister was talking about me and wanted to meet me.  (The power of the eyes at work!)   I talked to him for a few minutes… just chillin’ like I always do… no jumping up and getting all excited (which most guys would do).  I just acted like I didn’t care to really meet her.  While we chatted, my coaches took the students back to the seminar room.  I stayed behind.  

Once they were gone, the brother called his sister over and everyone else came up to the bar.  I walked over and started talking to super cute girl… with whom I had been consistently hitting eye contact while talking to the guy.  It was so simple.  I said, “So you wanted to meet me, huh?” as I looked into her eyes… not thinking about anything else.  Instant connection. 

Then, one of the other girls asked me if I knew that guy that was at the other end of the bar.  I said “Yeah, he is a friend of mine.  Why?”  They all laughed.  She started talking about the pickup lines he was using on her.  She went on to tell me what he said but honestly I don’t remember what it was.

She said, “Wow!  Now, I’ve heard them all!” 

I laughed along with them.  Then, the girl I was talking to asked me to go with them to hang out at some party. Obviously, I couldn’t because I had to get back to the boot-camp.  So, I told her I had to get going.  She offered me her number.  I said, “Here, I will write mine down.  Give me a call if you would like to hang out some time.”

The point is that while everyone is sitting and eating like they normally do, I am picking up women… like I normally do.  There were no stupid pickup lines.  There was no approach anxiety.  (Heck, there wasn’t even an approach!)  There was no frustration or negative thoughts going through my head.  It was just purely natural… the way I always meet women.

You can pick up women like this all the time.  It doesn’t matter where you are or what you are doing… as long as you’re aware, laid back, chill, and comfortable in your own skin.  But most of all… you’re just having a good time wherever you are.

With my instruction, my student who messed up the interaction has since stopped using those lines by internalizing the correct Magnetic Mindset and has improved immensely. He realized that is not the way.